tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post5667761676510003354..comments2024-03-23T11:20:00.742+00:00Comments on dripping with passion: ten thoughts on a wednesday |32|charity eyre wrighthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12497155833888120008noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-82091638907914295762018-04-05T21:57:03.566+01:002018-04-05T21:57:03.566+01:00Have you heard of the LDS therapist Dr. Jennifer-F...Have you heard of the LDS therapist Dr. Jennifer-Finlayson Fife? She is one of God's many gifts to LDS women and married couples. After taking a couple of her online courses, I don't know how anyone could not afford to take her courses. I would say her programs are a must for every couple out there - happily married or unhappily married. She will help you up-level your marriage from where it's currently at, and help you up-level your life as an individual person.Brandon and Jamie Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01543667514506735347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-9558819348905572152018-04-02T19:17:30.512+01:002018-04-02T19:17:30.512+01:00My husband and i were never able to pick out and a...My husband and i were never able to pick out and agree on a name before baby was born. and in each case, all four of my vhildrennwere named something different than any of the names that were on my list! ha! i have always marvelled at people who pick out names long before baby is born. i guess i am just so indecisive and noncommittal in general. Boy names that i love but didn't get to use were Thomas, Jameson, and Nathaniel. <br /><br />All marriages are so different. I remember when I was engaged, I went to dinner with my two sisters. One had been married for 7 years and the other had been married for 10 years. I found it interesting that they each felt like the first few two or three years had been the most difficult relationship wise, and agreed that their marriages were better and stronger the longer they were married. Now fast forward ten years, and I can say nearly the same thing. The first two or three years we had to get used to each other and make personal changes to be able to work together. Ten years in and we rarely get in arguments because we know each other well enough to work through things without being disagreeable. Not to say that we don’t have heated discussions sometimes, but as the years have passed they are fewer and fewer and less intense. Usually only when we are under great stress or very sleep deprived do we let disagreements turn into arguments. But that’s the work of ten years worth of efforts to have a healthy relationship. Both of us have put time and effort into learning to communicate with each other and show love in different ways, to nurture each other, and disagree without being disagreeable. I wouldn’t ever say marriage is easy but I will say it’s kind of like riding a bike, the first while you have to concentrate on balance and pedaling and steering, and then it becomes second nature and you don’t have to think so much about it. We as a couple had to put a lot of effort in the first years of our marriage to learn to communicate with each other and fill each other’s needs. Because we’ve established those skills, habits, and attitudes, it’s become second nature to us and marriage is a lot smoother. <br />I know this is not everyone’s experience and at anytime our individual choices can change the trajectory of a marriage. But there is such comfort and peace in a worn-in relationship that just gets more cushy as time goes on. <br />Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15696231021422009947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-60922231327672282852018-04-01T23:28:13.355+01:002018-04-01T23:28:13.355+01:00We had a tough time naming our second daughter too...We had a tough time naming our second daughter too. I really like the website Nymbler(http://www.nymbler.com/). You can put in your childś name as well as other names you like, even if theyŕe for the opposite sex. It then gives suggestions based on those. Worked really well for us. If nothing else, itś fun!Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07246028955119427342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-43923834638980322892018-03-31T20:14:05.032+01:002018-03-31T20:14:05.032+01:00Just a suggestion about the hitting: kids who are ...Just a suggestion about the hitting: kids who are still acquiring language aren't going to understand any discussion about why that's not allowed, but babies and toddlers do understand facial expressions. With both my children, if they did something naughty before they were old enough to talk it over and understand rules/consequences, I used a pronounced shocked/dismayed face with no words to show them their behavior was not OK. (I also have a "you're about to get in trouble" face that still works even now that they are 11 and 14, haha). Concern, approval, happiness are all feelings that show in facial expressions regardless of language. I like the hug idea, too - it is likely to be a bid for attention. Good luck with becoming a mom of two - the first few months were the hardest, but then I figured out how to take care of them both at the same time. Before long, they began to play together and that was pretty wonderful to watch.beantaterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03946211005291626754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-44233059387612995022018-03-30T20:24:55.280+01:002018-03-30T20:24:55.280+01:00HAHA! My husband's list was very different th...HAHA! My husband's list was very different than mine as well. I told him that next time he carried a human being around in his body for 9 months and expelled it through a very small orifice... then he would get final say on what to name it. Marianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-16856660403525687622018-03-30T08:19:39.328+01:002018-03-30T08:19:39.328+01:00a couple of these are on my list. the problem is t...a couple of these are on my list. the problem is that my list and ian’s list are very different :) charity eyre wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12497155833888120008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-3527610935061374732018-03-30T08:19:02.603+01:002018-03-30T08:19:02.603+01:00i have realized that the hitting happens oftentime...i have realized that the hitting happens oftentimes when i am distracted and not really paying attention to moses, so i appreciate this thought! not that he should constantly have my complete attention, but sometimes homeboy just needs a cuddle! charity eyre wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12497155833888120008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-79625557877979226142018-03-29T20:08:13.197+01:002018-03-29T20:08:13.197+01:00My son went through a biting phase while I was pre...My son went through a biting phase while I was pregnant with #2. Instead of reprimanding him I would pull him in for a hug. It's what he waw crying out for and the phase passed quickly. NancyGMartinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14925188200941358102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-25751167707471006912018-03-29T17:30:16.101+01:002018-03-29T17:30:16.101+01:00What about Leo? Luca? Arthur? Theo? What about Leo? Luca? Arthur? Theo? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-36826970023102003922018-03-29T15:15:33.967+01:002018-03-29T15:15:33.967+01:00i love this! adventures are way better. i love this! adventures are way better. charity eyre wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12497155833888120008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-10724924284363472402018-03-29T15:15:10.764+01:002018-03-29T15:15:10.764+01:00thank you!
i thought the same about "easy b...thank you! <br /><br />i thought the same about "easy breezy" marriages but honestly i'm convinced by some of the very candid responses to my facebook posts - it genuinely is easy for some couples. it's really interesting to hear about people's different experiences. <br /><br />are you also expecting our second child? charity eyre wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12497155833888120008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-10398220747272490672018-03-29T14:48:54.658+01:002018-03-29T14:48:54.658+01:00You know what is funny is that as a younger marrie...You know what is funny is that as a younger married person I thought "this will get easier when the kids are older or out of the house" Nope. Because we are each individually growing and changing, the marriage does too. I decided I could look at it as a burden or an adventure-adventures are so much better. Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14393297686116626099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-84027934364033210422018-03-29T14:33:47.097+01:002018-03-29T14:33:47.097+01:00I also love Jody Moore’s podcast (mentioned above)...I also love Jody Moore’s podcast (mentioned above). If you’re into parenting podcasts, I really like Janet Lansbury, Unruffled. Her approach to negative behavior (like hitting) has helped a ton as well as her overall perspective on babies/toddlers. As for marriage, I don’t know anyone that would say it’s easy breezy (unless they are extremely young LDS newlyweds who portray their marriage that way on social media). I appreciate your candidness on that topic as well as parenting and mental health. We can all struggle with uncertainties and dips without being full blown depressed! Makes me a little nervous for #2 and the hormones and how our lives will change. So I look forward to following along on your journey. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-16421742203472495842018-03-29T12:24:35.122+01:002018-03-29T12:24:35.122+01:00ooooh thanks friend, i'll check it out :)ooooh thanks friend, i'll check it out :)charity eyre wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12497155833888120008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-85462396884566900632018-03-29T12:24:13.125+01:002018-03-29T12:24:13.125+01:00thanks so much! i think pregnancy hormones have de...thanks so much! i think pregnancy hormones have definitely played in on my mental health dip. it's nothing too intense (i definitely wouldn't call it "depression" per say), but i think it's so good to use therapy and other tools to try to keep mental health in a really good place, regardless of our situation (just like with physical health!). <br /><br />really appreciate your comment!charity eyre wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12497155833888120008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-24673216085135862022018-03-29T12:21:38.937+01:002018-03-29T12:21:38.937+01:00i've heard this several times in blog posts (n...i've heard this several times in blog posts (not sure if from the same person?). i personally think it would be pretty weird to have a moses and an aaron, haha! but thanks for the thought! :)charity eyre wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12497155833888120008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-55378595313880784602018-03-29T12:20:56.036+01:002018-03-29T12:20:56.036+01:00thanks for the tip! i'll try it! the heartburn...thanks for the tip! i'll try it! the heartburn has been getting much better. i hope that means baby is descending nicely! charity eyre wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12497155833888120008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-82345297292679470602018-03-29T12:19:59.359+01:002018-03-29T12:19:59.359+01:00i have talked with my teachers and also just done ...i have talked with my teachers and also just done my own research / listened to my body for modifications. basically i just: 1. don't twist, 2. don't do poses lying on my belly (i usually just do cat-cows during those poses when they come up), and 3. widen my stance on most positions (especially as my belly has gotten bigger). other than that, i just do my regular practice! my belly hasn't gotten in the way too much on caturanga to up-dog! <br /><br />thanks for your comment!charity eyre wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12497155833888120008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-32646324884213709132018-03-29T12:16:46.172+01:002018-03-29T12:16:46.172+01:00thanks so much! i will definitely check it out. thanks so much! i will definitely check it out. charity eyre wrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12497155833888120008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-82867190203407305532018-03-29T03:24:00.815+01:002018-03-29T03:24:00.815+01:00Love your 10 thoughts posts! :) This site for help...Love your 10 thoughts posts! :) This site for helping Catholic families name their new babies has some really interesting ones - worth a skim. https://sanctanomina.net/katiefromtheblockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08766498722293521160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-61127088504109526002018-03-29T01:27:08.831+01:002018-03-29T01:27:08.831+01:00I third this! I think I recommended it to you a c...I third this! I think I recommended it to you a couple months ago, but it's CHANGED my life. Honestly, give it a try!Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03610723428970746098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-87627820991505499762018-03-29T00:03:11.260+01:002018-03-29T00:03:11.260+01:00I just discovered this podcast! It has been good t...I just discovered this podcast! It has been good therapy for me so I second this recommendation. Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11277274255520447284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-61218239799470431312018-03-28T22:32:18.812+01:002018-03-28T22:32:18.812+01:00My mental health really suffered with each pregnan...My mental health really suffered with each pregnancy. There is actually such a think as prenatal depression (which I didn't realize until well after I had my first child). You said you've struggled with it for a while, but know that pregnancy might be adding to hardness.<br /><br />Good luck with the name. It will come! but I understand how incredibly stressful it is in the meantimeKThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07104353672021261729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-67134102706849695612018-03-28T19:48:44.086+01:002018-03-28T19:48:44.086+01:00it blows my mind that people could ever call marri...it blows my mind that people could ever call marriage easy... mine is a ton of hard work! but its for the best, honestly, because i have so much growing to do and its so good to be stretched. <br />thanks for this list... i love me some lists. and good luck with the baby naming :)Holly Deckerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15736229630337808144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5168799841998271534.post-45288790468605780422018-03-28T19:47:37.535+01:002018-03-28T19:47:37.535+01:00Aaron is a good name. And in the Bible, Aaron in ...Aaron is a good name. And in the Bible, Aaron in Moses' brother, so there's that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com