some thoughts on a wednesday |52|


hi! 

this break from blogging has been an interesting experience. the way my photos and thoughts have been piling up, disorganized and unshared, makes me feel anxious. arranging memories and reflections into blog posts helps my mind to un-jumble and my perspective to settle - i miss that exercise. 

the past six weeks or so have just been so wild and i haven't been able to devote time to work on a new system for blogging. days and weeks have been full and whipping past. some travel adventures ended up stacked right together - first a long weekend in holland, then a week in dominican republic, then a trip to disneyland and paris right after having ian's parents in town for a visit. it has been amazing ... and also a bit exhausting all in a row! i have been sorting through some kind of concerning health issues and have been trying to not let my spirit break too much with some significant knee issues in my marathon training. work has been wild in new ways for ian, there's been some worries about tiny gabriel's development, and moses is having (an expected but nonetheless stressful!) surgery next week. phew! it's just a crazy time for our family. 

i am hoping that, come june, life will even out a little. and i'll dig myself out from under the piled up photos and thoughts and start blogging again (on a new wordpress site, yay). this wednesday, i had some extra nap-time-free-time so i wanted to share some random thoughts to help me to not get toooo far behind! 

seeing the tulip (and, bonus!, hyacinth) fields in holland is something i've had on my bucket list for a long time and it totally exceeded my high expectations. we visited keukenhof, the most jaw-droppingly, literally breathtaking gardens and both biked and drove around the rural flower fields, finding immense treasures. i wish i could bottle up the smell of the hyacinths and the so-vivid-it-kind-of-hurts-your-eyes colours of the tulips. god is such an incredible artist, and admiring the varied wonders of the earth teaches me that god loves diversity. 

i have been extremely healthy continuously, with very few exceptions, for almost thirty three years. before i started training for a marathon, i assumed that the months leading up to the race would be some of my very healthiest. but actually, i've felt kind of generally crappy physically pretty much since the end of last year. i'm still trying to figure out exactly what is going on, but this experience has made me feel so grateful for the vibrant health i've been lucky to live with all my life. 

our boys are just growing and growing. gabriel turned one and is more little boy than baby these days. moses is coming up with all kinds of original ideas, always asking alexa (as in our amazon dot!) questions, and working on writing his name. they are both so much fun and i cannot even handle how crazy much i love them. they adore each other and make each other giggle every day. life as their full-time carer is chaotic and awesome. 

london in bloom is just the best. after the magnolias came the cherry blossoms and the wisteria and there's a treasure of flowers around every corner it seems. when we moved into our flat last october, we liked the vine climbing along the railing and up the side of the building ... but we didn't know it was wisteria until spring came! i was ecstatic. this spring that wisteria vine again brought me so, so much joy. imagine my horror when i left our flat yesterday with the boys in the double buggy to see the vine completely chopped off the railing! they are doing some construction right next door and the workers just hacked it right off. i was talking to moses about my sadness about this and he said, "but mom! there's still some wisteria!" he's right - the vine is still on the side of the building ... and i loved his reminder that even when some is lost it definitely doesn't mean all is lost! :) 

i have been learning a lot from the experience of having significant knee issues as i've reached the climax of my marathon training. a 12 mile run became 7 in holland when i had a lot of (what was by then recurring) i.t. band tightness. and then i had to stop at mile 11 of an 18 mile run a couple of weeks ago when my right knee was screaming with pain. this was so defeating for me, and it broke my spirit quite a bit. i laid in the bath after getting home, letting tears slide down my cheeks and into the bath water. i have had this marathon goal for so long, have planned my training around babies and jobs, have worked really hard and have been so pumped about it. as the weeks have continued to pass and the pain has continued to persist, i have explored lots of different advice, have visited several physical therapists, and have petitioned god earnestly for guidance and strength. now, two and a half weeks from the race, i have acknowledged that my run will very likely not look the way i hoped and envisioned. and i have acknowledged, after some mental work, that that's okay. there's a lot of paradoxical power in letting go. 

i can't say enough how much i love love love my childhood friend caitlin connolly's artwork. every time i visit her website i find new pieces that touch me so deeply. the sketch at the top of this post is a perfect depiction of what our family life feels like often these days. in the past few weeks have felt a lot like "leaning against something unknown":
but i've been trying to be "a willing woman," turning to heaven for inspiration:
and attempting to "stand with my burdens placed under my feet," looking with hope and light toward the future:

the week we spent in the dominican republic with my parents and siblings, to celebrate my parents' fiftieth anniversary, was pretty dreamy. truly - it honestly feels like a surreal dream looking back on. it was so wonderful to be with people we love so much and to enjoy golden sun and the warm teal sea and a perfect mix of adventure and relaxation. 

my angel mother-in-law watched our kids while we were on that trip. we could never, ever thank her enough for that incredible gift. moses and gabriel had a blast with grandma and we didn't worry about them for a second. grandpa joined the party after we returned to london and it was so great to have ian's parents here with us for a week. they are leaving in july for a three year church mission. so glad we got that precious time in with them before they go! 

i've been listening to michelle obama's book on my runs and when doing housework. i've found it so fascinating and engaging. ian and i rewatched the movie about time a couple weeks ago, and by the end i was sobbing. such a great, inspiring film. we went to the musical come from away last month and by the end of that we were both crying. we absolutely loved it. 

two things that i think are totally worth the hype: disneyland, and paris. we thoroughly enjoyed both last week. it was so fun see the wonder in our boys' eyes at disneyland, and i just love paris more every time i go there (i loved it to start, and now i'm head over heels).

i've been writing the last bit of this post over a long period of time because both boys are now awake and i'm interrupted about every twenty seconds ;) so that's it for now ... i hope to be back soon! 

xoxo

15 comments:

  1. Missed you here, it’s nice to get a little update ;)

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  3. Have missed you!!! Enjoying Instagram, but still super glad to see you on the blog again. Best wishes on your marathon! Sons' in law are both runners and they've talked about their share of disappointments a few times. Hang in there.

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  4. Good luck with the marathon. Its amazing how much moving from the half to the full impacts the body. I had an IT band issue that flared up when I trained for a marathon. It would hurt after about 15 miles. It was disappointing. I was able to complete the marathon with pain. I worked on core strengthening and pt in the years since, but will probably have to stay with half marathons (where it only sometimes hurts and never in training).

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  5. Welcome back, I've missed you.

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  6. Thank you for keeping in touch. Take care of yourself. x

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  7. Hoping you will share your new blog with the world as you do this one. You are an inspiration as a woman and mother and I really enjoy reading of your adventures. Be well & God Bless!

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  8. Sorry to read about your health issues! Sounds like a stressful time for the Wright family.

    As for the knee pain, wouldn't it be sensible not to run the marathon at all (says the person who thinks that marathons are unnatural and who had a tiny bit of sore muscles after climbing 420 steps up a church tower)?

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  9. Charity- just wanted to say I hear you and I feel you on so many of the issues you mentioned...Even though I'm almost a decade older than you and in some ways my life is very different from yours, I can relate to much of what you've written here. We're also dealing with some health and family issues, and it's stressful. On top of that, I've been a runner for over 20 years now - it's how I de-stress and stay sane and allow myself to indulge my sweet tooth - but this past year my body's been signaling I need to make some changes. I did 2 marathons (in 1 year) in my mid-20s, but I landed in the ER after the 2nd one - just for monitoring, luckily, but it was scary and I decided no more marathons after that. For the next 15 years I stuck to half-marathons, no problem. But in the past year I've developed plantar fasciitis and tendonitis and it's thrown me for a loop. I'm trying to cut back on running and be Ok with it, but it's (I'm) a work in progress. :-) I also wanted to say that marathon recovery is no joke, and I can't imagine doing it with 2 young kids. So be kind to yourself, whatever you end up deciding to do and whatever happens. I hope Mose's surgery goes smoothly, and good luck with everything else. I admire your spirit and your honesty.

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  10. Posted before I mentioned that I'm also listening to Michelle Obama's book! I love it, and I love her voice. It's been such a balm for me during a stressful time.

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  11. Wow! That’s a lot of health/doctor stuff for one family to handle! I find it challenging to keep my anxiety in check when my kids have medical issues; you seem able to be calm and focused about it which is so great. The one thing I’ll say about baby size /development is that people come in a wide variety of shapes and sizes. Of course, it’s important to follow up with doctors if they have concerns. It’s also
    Important to trust your instincts about what is healthy for your kid and family. Ian is very thin and there might be a strong genetic component here that does not reflect any “issues.”

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  13. Glad you are back! Have a great week!

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  14. I used to be a runner (I would still be if my health allowed) and had an I.T. band problem too. I feel for you. I ended up having to have surgery on mine. Best to you.

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